Is Your Partner Guessing?

Is Your Partner Guessing?

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Have you ever noticed that rather than communicate directly, you make your partner guess about what you want? Certain conversations can be difficult to begin. Strong emotions can keep us from getting started. Fear of conflict escalating may hold us back. Unspoken signals can confuse us and make it less safe to proceed. Not trusting

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Relationship Reset

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This article is a guest post from Candice Wu, LCPC. She is an intuitive coach and holistic healing facilitator who helps people through the power of love, self-forgiveness, empowerment and body wisdom.    Have you ever felt like you wanted to just reset or reboot the relationship? The Outdated Default Relationship Dynamic Recently, I noticed

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Infidelity as a Growth Opportunity

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Santiago Delboy is a colleague and friend to LifeWorks who brings insight and thoughtfulness to his work, writing and collaboration. We are pleased to share some of his thougths about infidelity. This post appears in Santiago’s blog, which can be found here.   This afternoon, I watched a TED talk by therapist and author Esther Perel about infidelity. I read her book Mating

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Sailing Into Therapeutic Parenting

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This article is a guest post from parenting expert Billy Kaplan, LCSW. He is the President and Clinical Director at House Calls Counseling, which develops and promotes healthy family relationships by encouraging the emotional, behavioral and mental health of children, teenagers, adults, couples and families. This post on therapeutic parenting first appeared here. I learned to

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When Relationships Fall Apart

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This article was written by Lisa Blair, M.A. and David Bedrick, J.D., who are both Certified Process Work Diplomats. It first appeared here and is reposted with permission.  Every relationship has two handshakes: one above the table and one below. The first handshake is a conscious agreement between the two people, saying “We’re going to support each

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Queer, Poly, Kinky, Single? Alternative Valentine’s Day Ideas

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Navigating Valentine’s Day can be tricky, especially if you’re single, or if your relationship falls outside the margins of heteronormative monogamy. As the 14th approaches, you might feel like you can’t escape ads selling jewelry by reinforcing the gender binary or promotions trying to push pricey dinner dates for two. But, even as you feel

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Low Libido Blues: Desire Discrepancy in Intimate Relationship

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Michelle Herzog is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist based out of Chicago. She is the owner of the Center for Mindful Living, a private practice specializing in relationship and sex therapy. We are delighted to share her post on desire discrepancy and communication.  One of the most common sexual issues couples

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Polyphobia: Anti-Polyamorous Prejudice and Discrimination

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Eli Sheff is considered a leading expert when it comes to polyamory and stigma. Eli is the CEO and Director of Legal Services at the Sheff Consulting Group, a think-tank of experts specializing in diverse subcultures and under-served populations. The following is an article she wrote for Psychology Today about polyphobia and discrimination.  Prejudice is making judgements about

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Navigating the Relationship Journey

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Santiago Delboy is a colleague and friend to LifeWorks who brings insight and thoughtfulness to his work and collaboration. We are pleased to share some of his writing. This post appears in Santiago Delboy’s blog, which can be found here. Just to state the obvious, relationships are not easy. While we are “wired” to be in relationships and they

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A Gratitude Experiment

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“Thank you.” Two words most of us say countless times each day.  Saying ‘thank you’ recently came up in a client session and we started processing what that phrase means.  Are we saying the words when we are expressing gratitude or just out of habit? I remember my mother (as many parents do) training me

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Pull the Next One Up

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by Marc Kelly Smith When you get to the top of the mountain Pull the next one up. Then there’ll be two of you Roped together at the waist Tired and proud, knowing the mountain, Knowing the human force it took To bring both of you there. And when the second one has finished Taking

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Healing from Affairs — Cheating is not Polyamory

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Affairs can surface in a long-term relationship.  Can healing occur when the affairs have been covert, repeated and ongoing? Several years ago a couple, Peter and Sherri (not their real names), a married, het/cisgender couple, came to see me. They had been married for approximately 25 years. As are my usual questions when I first

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Interview with Jo Flannery, AMFT, MA Sexology

Jo Flannery, AMFT, MA Sexology, is one of four therapists to join LifeWorks this year through the Greenhouse, our postgraduate psychotherapy training and mentoring program. The Greenhouse provides new clinicians with opportunities to develop their identities as therapists, deepen their skills and unique strengths, and expand their cultural competence through hands-on experience and educational modules.Click

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Cultural Competence and Bias

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As therapists, we recognize our ethical obligations to know and acknowledge the limits of our training and skills. We know that our expertise grows over time with experience and supervision, training, reading, dialogue and further training. These activities contribute to our mastery of specialized areas, methods or skills. But what about cultural competence? How do

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In the Shadow of Disney World

Palm Tree Shadows

ORLANDO SHOOTING JUNE 11, 2016 When I think Orlando, I think of sun filled days,  blue skies, parents and grandparents offering up days of fun and excitement, showering their children with the time of their lives at Disney World. But from  yesterday on, I will think of Orlando in a different way.  I will think

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LifeWorks Team is Expanding — Meet Brandon Haydon, LSW

Brandon Haydon, LSW, is one of four Greenhouse therapists on staff at LifeWorks in 2016.  Below he shares some of his hopes and goals for the year. LifeWorks:  What first drew you to the Greenhouse and LifeWorks? Brandon:  I have had the privilege of familiarizing myself with Lifeworks over the last 5 years through their

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Welcoming the 2016 Greenhouse Therapists

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LifeWorks is proud to announce that the first Greenhouse cohort is underway. Four new therapists have joined our team for 2016. Please welcome Brandon Haydon, LSW, Allison Burque, LCSW, Natalie A. Hock, MSW, and Jo Flannery, AMFT, MA! The Greenhouse is a postgraduate psychotherapy training and mentorship program developed and sponsored by LifeWorks. The program

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Communication Challenges: Yes, That Again!!

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Have you ever fallen into the pit of communication challenges? Or should I say miscommunication challenges? What an interesting phenomena it can be, if and when you have the detachment to notice you are in the pit and are able to name it as interesting! More often it is experienced as a quagmire, an endless

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