I work with people who are experiencing anxiety or distress, feeling stuck in unsatisfying patterns of relating to themselves or others.
I welcome clients in a variety of relationship configurations and understandings (polyamorous, monogamous, or monogamish), gender identities (gender queer, gender questioning, or gender ask-me-each-day), kinky, less kinky…
Early on in therapy, individuals and relationship partners sometimes ask some form of the question “how does therapy work?”
This is a very good question, and it suggests a collaboration that is at the heart of the process.
Though the work is somewhat different with individuals and couples (or any relationship configuration), a central element is letting in parts of our experience which may be unwanted or less known to us.
Whatever our thoughts and feelings may be, increasing our access to them, and deepening and securing our ability to make space for them, can bring our innate healing resources into play.
Similarly, in relationship work, the focus is on shifting from the attempt to conquer or control your partner(s), to creating and environment in which each partner cultivates an interest in learning more about the other’s experience, whether they agree with them or not.
I draw on my experience in theater, music, and improvisation to make our work a co-creative process, focused in the present moment, and also draw on somatic and mindfulness approaches to support a sense of internal liveliness, authenticity, and well-being.
Feel free to contact me, if you would like to talk about how we might work together in whatever your goals may be.
Tom Herman, LSW, works with individuals, couples, and groups. He teaches acting and improvisation, and facilitates experiential learning groups.
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For more information or to make an appointment, please call or email:[email protected] 847-568-1100
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LifeWorks serves the north suburbs including Skokie, Evanston, Wilmette, Glenview, Northbrook, Northfield, Lincolnwood, Park Ridge and Glencoe as well as Chicago neighborhoods including Central Loop, Lakeview, Edgewater, Rogers Park, Andersonville, Lincoln Square and Lincoln Park.