October Topic

Revisiting Coming Out Polyam

October 3, 2020 10:00 AM - 12:00 PM

A couple of weeks ago I had an opportunity to revisit the awkwardness of coming out poly to a total stranger.

Here’s what happened: My husband and I were at a store that sells exercise equipment. Anticipating a run on machines due to the closure, and/or hesitancy around attending gyms, I thought, “let’s get something now!” After trying a few machines, with a very anxious salesperson nipping at our heels, I said to my husband “let’s have Cindy come in and try the ones we like.” “Who is Cindy, your daughter?” the salesperson queried. I was thrown into the many dozens of times that question has been asked of me, remembering back to the first time our 5-year-old son asked that question “Who is Cindy?”

How I answered the salesperson is less interesting to me than the feeling of being put on the spot to respond with the truth or a simple none of your business…well maybe not so simple. So let’s visit, or revisit coming out, or coming in as the case may be.

A few suggestions for the call… please mute your mic if not speaking, and join the call 10 minutes early to make sure you can work out any technical difficulties without missing too much conversation.

Be well.