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Impermanence

Pema Chodron, in her book entitled Comfortable with Uncertainty (2002), writes: “Nothing in its essence is one way or the other.  All around us the wind, the fire, the earth, the water, are always taking on different qualities: they’re like magicians. We also change like the weather. We ebb and flow like the tides, we […] Read more “Impermanence”

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Am I a Marginalizer?

What do you think of when you hear the word marginalization? People living in poverty, persons of color, those who do not share fully in the privileges some of us are enjoying these days? I would say yes to all of the above, and would include a list that would be broader and more inclusive […] Read more “Am I a Marginalizer?”

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Meeting Difference – Our Conflict with Contact

“Otherness, taken seriously, always invites transformation, calling us not only to new facts and theories and values but also to new ways of living our lives – and that is the most daunting threat of all.” Today, I came across this quote about the quintessential dilemma that difference and diversity pose, from sociologist and renowned […] Read more “Meeting Difference – Our Conflict with Contact”

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Longing for Belonging

On Saturday, March 30, the Chicago Polyamory Support Group met. Into its 4th year, the group has welcomed hundreds of people through its doors. Being an open support group, anyone can come at any time. Each month a topic is selected and each time the discussion flows — both on and off topic as the […] Read more “Longing for Belonging”

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What’s Your Story?

“Story.”  What comes to mind when you hear that word?  Dictionary.com defines the word “story” as:  “a narrative, either true or fictitious, in prose or verse, designed to interest, amuse, or instruct the hearer or reader; tale.” Let’s unpack that definition a bit.  The first thing is “true or fictitious.”  We all have our own […] Read more “What’s Your Story?”

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Art and Psychotherapy Connected

Have you ever felt stuck in life or in therapy?  If you are an artist, do you ever feel bored by your own work, as though the creative well had dried up?  It seems to me there are many things that are unknown or maybe unknowable about the creative process. We tap into the creative […] Read more “Art and Psychotherapy Connected”

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Beyond Identity: Identity and Aging

Lately, I have been thinking a great deal about identity and aging. Now, at age 65, I think about the future, about who I have been and who I will be. I feel that I have lived many identities…woman, mother, partner, psychotherapist, teacher, colorist, designer, freedom lover, daughter, sister, polyamorist etc. But who am I […] Read more “Beyond Identity: Identity and Aging”

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More on Am I Polyamorous or am I Not?

In the last post I started speaking about identity…something I have thought about quite a bit. I’d like to tell you a bit about myself and my struggle with my own polyamorous identity. As I mentioned previously, I have been in a polyamorous relationship for close to 30 years. Naturally, prior to finding out about […] Read more “More on Am I Polyamorous or am I Not?”

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Am I Polyamorous?

“Polyamory is an identification that mirrors LGBTQ identification in the sense that it is not something I can control, squash, or stop. I did not make a decision to do this. It is not something that I can stop.” That’s what Helen said when I interviewed her for a research project in 2011. For her, and many […] Read more “Am I Polyamorous?”