Our Sex Positive Therapy Approach

Sex-positive therapists embrace the idea that consensual sexual activities are fundamentally healthy.

What is a sex-positive approach? 

While emphasizing personal responsibility between consenting people of all ages, safer sex practices, and respect for individual limits and preferences, sex-positive therapists support clients to explore their sexuality and discover what works for them. Sex-positivity allows for and, in fact, celebrates sexual diversity, differing desires and relationships structures, and individual choices based on consent between or among partners.

If you identify with or are a member of these communities and are struggling with related or other issues, contact us today to see how a LifeWorks therapist can help.


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Sex-positive Therapists and Counselors

At LifeWorks, we hold a sex-positive attitude toward the responsible, ethical, and consensual expressions of sexuality clients may share. We seek to normalize, accept and value various erotic and sexual longings, desires, and behaviors. As sex-positive counselors and therapists, we assume that including and integrating all parts of ourselves – even those that we secretly feel shame, fear or disgust toward – allows clients to live more congruently.

At LifeWorks Psychotherapy, we believe in celebrating the diverse tapestry of human sexuality. Our sex-positive counselors and therapists understand the importance of providing a safe and non-judgmental space for individuals with diverse sexual orientations, gender identities, and relationship styles. Whether you identify as LGBQA+, are Trans or Gender-diverse, have alternative sexual interests such as kink, leather or BDSM, or engage in polyamorous relationships, our therapists are here to support you. We embrace a sex-positive approach that nurtures personal growth, self-acceptance, and improved mental well-being.

Image: Two Aztec Men Kissing by Cindy Trawinski, © 2001

A word about trauma

We believe that social stigma and oppression around sex and sexuality can be experienced as traumatic.  Trauma can also follow abusive or non-consensual sexual experiences. We believe that all types of trauma deserve understanding, validation, and healing.

Some people may wonder if they are ill because their desires, longings, or behaviors are perceived to be outside the “norm.” Our basic attitude is that it is up to each person to determine what is right for them and where their limits are. Knowing for some, there can also be severe trauma history in the background, we take these situations seriously and offer support to examine and explore all facets.

The Essence of Sex-Positivity in Therapy

At LifeWorks, our sex-positive therapy is rooted in acceptance, understanding, and affirmation. We reject the notion of pathologizing or stigmatizing non-normative sexualities or relationship structures. Instead, we validate and honor your experiences, empowering you to embrace your authentic self, fostering healthy self-esteem, and cultivating a positive body image.

LGBTQIA+ Affirmation

We are committed to creating a safe space for individuals within the LGBTQIA+ community. Our therapists possess specialized knowledge and understanding of the unique challenges you may face, such as coming out, internalized homophobia/transphobia, and discrimination. By providing a therapeutic process that acknowledges and validates your experiences, we support you in developing resilience, coping strategies, and a stronger sense of self.

Empowering Kink

If you have alternative sexual interests, such as BDSM or other forms of kink, we offer a judgment-free environment where you can explore and embrace your desires. Our kink-allied therapists understand the importance of consensual power dynamics and ethical practices within the realm of kink. We will assist you in navigating boundaries, negotiating consent, addressing any shame or stigma, and fostering a healthy and fulfilling relationship with your sexuality.

Nurturing Polyamorous Relationships

At LifeWorks, we recognize the unique dynamics and complexities of polyamorous relationships. Our sex-positive therapists are well-equipped to support you as you navigate the intricacies of multiple loving and consensual relationships. We provide guidance in exploring jealousy, improving communication, negotiating boundaries, and establishing healthy relationship structures.

Embracing Body Positivity

There is an important link between how we relate to our bodies and how we express our sexuality. We believe in accepting, honoring and celebrating bodies of all shapes, sizes, abilities, and appearances. We know that changes or lack of desired changes in our bodies can create many different emotional reactions and impact our sexual feelings and behavior.  Coming from a fat-positive perspective, LifeWorks therapists foster a compassionate environment where you can explore and improve your relationship with your body. We can help you notice, accept and feel good about your body.  As you develop deeper self-love and body positivity, you can embrace and enjoy your unique sexual expression and have a greater sense of well-being.

Intersectionality and Cultural Sensitivity

We understand that your identity is multifaceted and influenced by various factors such as race, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, and disability. Our sex-positive therapists embrace an intersectional and culturally sensitive approach. We recognize and honor the importance of these intersecting identities in your overall well-being, ensuring that our support is comprehensive, effective, and respectful.

Culturally Responsive, Sex-positive Therapists

LifeWorks psychotherapists are sex positive and passionate about providing inclusive and affirming care to all sexual orientations, gender identities, and relationship styles. We are here to support you on your journey towards self-discovery, acceptance, personal growth, and sexual fulfillment, whatever that means for you. By creating a safe and non-judgmental environment, we hope to support and empower you to embrace your authentic self and increase your sense of well-being and belonging. Together, we can celebrate the beauty of diversity and create a world that embraces and cherishes every unique expression of human sexuality.

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